Top 10 negative traits / qualities not to carry over from your divorce into your divorce recovery.

About The Guests:

-The guests on this episode of the Divorced Devil podcast are Rachel and David, the hosts of the show. They provide support and guidance for people going through divorce or relationship breakups.

Summary:

Rachel and David discuss ten negative traits and qualities that should not be carried over from a divorce or breakup into a new relationship. These traits include anger, resentment, bitterness, cynicism, blame, defensiveness, inflexibility, control, clinginess, impulsiveness, and volatility. They emphasize the importance of working through these negative emotions and behaviors in order to heal and grow. They also highlight the need for self-love and self-preservation during this process.

Key Takeaways:

- Don't carry anger, resentment, or bitterness from a previous relationship into a new one.

- Avoid cynicism and negative thinking, as it can hinder personal growth and new connections.

- Take responsibility for your own actions and avoid blaming others for the end of a relationship.

- Be open to different perspectives and willing to compromise in new relationships.

- Don't try to control everything; allow for flexibility and adaptability.

- Avoid clinginess and the need for constant reassurance due to abandonment fears.

- Be mindful of impulsive behavior and consider the consequences before acting.

- Work through emotions and seek healing in order to avoid volatility and irrational behavior.

Others Highlights:

-Don’t ask my location

-The wrath of Kraken

-Be the lighthouse

-Don’t put your penis in the oven

-Situationship

-It applies to all facets of life

-Oscar the Grouch

-Peyronie’s Disease

Quotes:

- "Use that resentment. Use that anger and spin it. Use that energy for good. Work on yourself. Self-love." - Rachel

- "Don't bring the negative shit to the new relationship. Be the light. Be the beacon." - David

- "Take responsibility for yourself. And again, that doesn't mean that you caused it. That means that you’re working on you." - Rachel

- "Give people a chance. You don't have to like me, but I've shown you who I am from the beginning." - David

- "Let go of fault because that'll roadblock you for all the healing, for the denial, for all the things." - Rachel

- "Be more flexible in our new relationships. And number seven, control." - David

- "Feel the feels. The faster you go through all the feelings, the quicker you'll heal." - Rachel